Giving isn’t the same as losing. Isa said it was better to give than receive. Turns out, so does the latest science.
People expect you to be cynical in the 21st century.
The self-help genre dominates the bookselling marketplace.
People feel bad more and more often, and they are scrambling to feel a sense of meaning, connection, and happiness.
There is a strategy we can use to combat feelings of meaninglessness, loneliness, and depression most people often overlook.
This strategy has nothing to do with centering your third-eye.
This strategy doesn’t require you to implement a get-rich-quick scheme
This strategy to achieve a sense of purposefulness, connectedness, and joy is ancient and profound:
Give more.
Most people don’t want to give more because they already feel taken advantage of.
They feel a sense of victimization by the world.
They don’t want to be generous, giving, and charitable, because it requires a kind of optimism that is risky—it requires a hope that says: “I believe there is something worth saving in this world and I’m going to be part of God’s plan to meet the needs of others instead of hoarding as much as I can for myself.”
But this strategy isn’t just an ancient psychological tactic to achieve the peace that comes with happiness.
This strategy is also verified by multiple scientific disciplines.
These findings, both time-tested and empirically tested, should prompt us to rethink how we approach giving.
When we are able to understand the profundity of Jesus’s words, “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35), we will begin to benefit from the act of giving and see how giving doesn’t make us victims—it makes us beneficiaries.
Let’s jump right into the five scientific reasons why giving is rewarding.
1. Giving makes you happy
A 2017 study published in the journal Nature Communications found that generous behavior is neurologically correlated with happiness.
How does this work?
Let me get a little nerdy.
Compared with a control group, those who made generous decisions showed a higher ability to make themselves feel genuinely happy. Generosity was a way to practice using the part of their brain that induced happiness.
In other words, the more you give, the bigger your “happiness muscle” gets, and the easier it is to make yourself feel happy.
2. Giving makes your community safe
Giving has real social value.
Most people know what it’s like to be in a desperate place.
Many people who know what it’s like to feel desperate also know what it’s like to feel immense gratitude for receiving a gift.
It’s important to remember this.
Giving a gift to someone in need doesn’t just make you a generous person.
It also makes the recipient a grateful person.
When you give, you don’t just give money.
You give breathing room.
You give someone in need the ability to exhale, relax, and reorient to find a way to pick themselves up.
One study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people who have received generosity are more likely to be generous in return.
3. Giving creates trust
Giving creates a relational connection between the giver and the receiver.
A recent study produced by Stanford University showed that social engagement predicts life longevity.
The more you belong to a community, the higher your chances of living a longer life.
This doesn’t mean that you have to be rich to belong.
It means that of the resources you have, if you choose to horde them all for yourself, you are robbing yourself of an important benefit of giving that is key to a long and happy life.